Therapy for all genders
Virtual in Minnesota
“The world will ask you who you are, and if you do not know, the world will tell you.”
-Carl Jung
Who am I? No really. Who am I?
Going about your life wearing all those different hats. All those different roles. A parent, a sibling, a caretaker, a friend, an employee…
…and you’ve been wonderful at it. You’ve done such a seriously awesome job being all of those things and showing up for others.
And I hope you can breathe that in and just feel and hear that for a tiny second. Right now.
And although you’ve done such an awesome job at all of these things, and you’ve breathed that in right now…
…it’s ok to realize that it has been exhausting, lonely, and has left you feeling sort of empty at times.
There’s been a stress on your heart, body, and mind with it all and it’s so SO hard to feel like you don’t have anything left for you, and your life.
An act of self love.
So what if I told you it’s ok to now pivot and to shift your focus to YOU. To the YOU that may have been on the back burner for way too long.
What if I told you that you have FULL permission to step into your own life. To start figuring out all the things that you like, love, and anything in between.
Want to eat Jelly Beans for breakfast? Cool. Want to figure out if you can still be a pro athlete? Go for it!
Want to figure out how to have boundaries with others so you can actually have time for yourself? Yep let’s work on this (and this is going to be a BIG one!)
Imagine actually having time for you to just enjoy something that you love, have time to figure out what’s important to you, to give yourself permission to rest, to be assertive, to say “no”, to pick the food you want to eat, to go to that spin class even though your family wants you home, to read that book even though you're “shoulding” the heck out of yourself to do ‘be productive.’.
…to just sit and have a 2nd cup of coffee for the day, to do nothing and day dream of what you want in life…
…and to not feel guilty about any of that.
The role expectations placed on you to be caregivers, employees, partners and to put our needs last (and do it with a smile) is painful and stifling to your sense of self. You don’t have to deny your own needs. You don’t have to smile unless you want to. If you don’t know who you are or what you want, we can work on that together.
It is NOT selfish to prioritize yourself and to actually put your wants and needs right up there with others.
But is it selfish? Is it truly?
“I can challenge the things that aren’t serving you anymore. And we get to ship those off to sea.“
-Melanie Harrison
Or is it an act of self love?
And because it’s been ingrained in us so powerfully, it can feel impossible to change this part of us and how we think.
But it IS changeable. Trust me.
And I can help you make this change.
I can help guide you through some deeper healing techniques with boundary setting, helping you discover who you are, what you want, and what’s important to you.
And then actually acting on it. So you can feel taken care of by yourself. So that you can feel those acts of self love. So that you can feel more at ease, happier, and live a more full life.
You can still take care of others, say “yes” to other people's needs and wants, to be in all those roles that you’ve been kicking ass at…
…and YOU can also matter. You can also meet your own needs, do something that you love, say “no” to some things, and to not give SO MUCH to everyone and everything else around you.
And you can do all of this without the guilt and the “shoulding” yourself.
